This is Day5 of 31 Days of Encouragement!
To see the previous posts, and for a link to all the other wonderful bloggers doing the same thing, please see the first day, here!
I’m quite excited to be attending Relevant, a wonderful weekend event for female Christian bloggers, in just a few weeks. Doubly so since I missed the purchase window a year ago! I was shocked when a friend sent me a message recently asking if I’d take her ticket, as she wasn’t going to be able to attend after all. How fast can I say yes?!
In the past couple of weeks I’ve been giggling at some of the Twitter feed from many girls who are attending, as there’s much talk of losing weight, buying new clothes, etc. etc. I myself headed out to Kohl’s this weekend … and told my husband I was “Relevant shopping.” Mama needed a new dress, okay? So I’m in the exact same boat. Even the blog needs a makeover … stay tuned. It’s apparently in the cyber-water.
I wonder … why is it that we ladies so often feel the need to change our appearance???
Obviously, it’s not just for Relevant. Every class reunion, homeschool convention, and trip home for Christmas probably brings the same emotions to many of us. We wish we were blonder/thinner/more fashionable/whatever. And we begin to diligently work to change our appearance. We want to make sure we show this side …
Instead of this one …
It reminds me a smidge of the way people selling their homes suddenly need to remodel them. The kitchen our family’s been living in isn’t good enough for the new owners, apparently. That bathroom that’s all out of date? Redone the week before it goes on the market. Why did we not consider our own family important enough to make those changes for? It’s a mystery. And of course there are a zillion reasons why — it wouldn’t sell without the change, or we didn’t have the money really but now need to spend some to make some, etc. etc. Still, I wonder …
A surprise call from someone coming over for a visit leads to a flurry of sweeping, tossing things into closets and fretting over all that’s left ondone. Planning to have people over only means the process is stretched out over days and weeks! Why is the way we live never quite good enough for someone else’s eyes?
I know where some of it comes from. Years of experience in school hallways, where the comments of smug cheerleaders and confident upperclassmen rang in our ears. Homes where nothing we did was ever good enough. Unfortunately for some of us, even churches where we’ve heard others degraded for their imperfections.
I’m asking the Lord this morning to remind me that I don’t need to become someone different, reshaping myself into who I think people would want me to be. For one thing, my idea of what’s important might not even be theirs. And for another, anything I “put on” for show is only masking who I really am.
When we pretend to be, or make ourselves appear to be, more ________________ (fill in the blank!) than we really are, we don’t do anyone any favors. We become unreachable, un-real behind our masks. There’s nothing wrong with buying a new outfit or getting our hair done, cleaning up the floor or lighting a candle for someone coming over. I don’t know about you, though, but I need a motivation check sometimes, that’s why I go online and find the best quotes for motivation so I feel better. Am I just making some necessary improvements? Or trying to be someone other than who I really am? If I’m trying to cover myself up, I need to pray for some healing in that area.
Thankfully, it’s available! God loves us as we are, and He has brought us into the kingdom of His Son. He will be faithful to change the things in us that *need* change. And unlike ourselves, or other people, He will make those changes over time, while giving us grace. When He changes us, it will be more than just on the surface; it will be real.
I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
Be blessed today, dear one! Rest in the acceptance of God. And resist the drive to cover up who you are. Be rooted and established in love … and be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God!