Tired, Mom? An Inconvenient Truth about Christmas

The Sunday after Thanksgiving found my pastor reflecting on what a wonderful weekend his family had experienced. He talked about how relaxing it had been to stay home for several days, with no pressing commitments and no people clamoring for his attention. He raved about the wonderful food they’d eaten and how much he’d enjoyed the rest of those days, how great it was that we’d all had time to sit around and relax for days in a row–something that doesn’t happen very often at all.

And I have to admit, it made me giggle.

Every woman in the room was probably chuckling a bit, if my guess is correct. And here’s why: we hadn’t rested a bit! Between menu planning, scheduling and purchasing plane tickets for distant family members, deciding who was bringing what to dinner, scrubbing the not-often-seen-spaces for out of town guests, making sure we had plates/glasses/forks/napkins enough for a burgeoning table (and where did that extra leaf disappear to, anyway?) preparing some of the food days in advance, and then juggling times to put in and take out the turkey, sweet potatoes, gravy, rolls, green beans, onions, pies, and even when the ice should go in the glasses, early enough to have time to pour drinks but not so early they’d all melt, “restful” is not the word I’d use to describe Thanksgiving! And just when the last platter was dried and put back in its place and the last Tupperware piece filled with leftover casserole and stored away, it was time to pull out the newspaper ads and gear up to shop on Black Friday! And when we finished that, of course, it was time to pull down boxes from the attic, make some space in the living room, head to the tree lot, and decorate for Christmas!

Nope. Not much rest happening here for me that weekend. I’d assume it’s the same for you! And here’s the thing: I really didn’t mind! I love making Thanksgiving happen for my family. Those men who have to get up and leave the house and work day after day after day *should* have a few days to NOT do that, and it’s a blessing to know they enjoyed it!

When my children were all small, it sometimes bothered me that the holidays were so much work. Christmas, especially. As a child it was all such a wonder; the tree and decorations and food and presents; they all just appeared seemingly out of nowhere, and with no work on anyone’s part! Then I became a mom, and reality set in … I think it’s a big adjustment, going from being the recipients of Christmas to being the bringers of it. Last year as I was wearily driving home from yet another Christmas-errand type excursion, I had a sudden realization that helped a lot with that.

Christmas has always come through the sacrifice of a woman.

Tears ran down my face when that truth crystallized in my heart. Always, of course, Christmas has been a gift from the Father. But even the first time–especially the first time!–a woman was required to lay down her plans, her comfort, her self. Without Mary’s offering up of her life to the purposes of God, we’d have nothing to celebrate.

So this year, as you go about all your preparations and work, dear mom, I pray you see the Father’s smile! We get to partner with Him in a very special way this time of year. Every ornament hung, cookie baked and carol played add sweet memories to your children’s hearts. Your husband’s, too! Go ahead and embrace the “weight” of being a Christmas-bearer. Just make sure you let God help you carry that! You are part of a sisterhood of women who say “Yes” to God, that He may bring beauty and joy to the world. He doesn’t do it without you!

Merry Christmas!

 

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44 Responses to Tired, Mom? An Inconvenient Truth about Christmas

  1. Kim says:

    Great post Misty!

  2. Thank you – this really touched me today, right where I needed it!  I only have one teenager left at home to homeschool now, but holidays bring all the married children home, with grandchildren, and dogs, and…and…and.   This year I was really weary of it all, as our daughter got married just before Thanksgiving, and my mother moved to Florida the day after the wedding.  I know I lost my joy and lost my way for little bit.  Thanks for helping me back on the path!

    • MistyK says:

      I can’t even imagine what that stage is like, Sue! It must be quite a change and challenge. Your daughter got married just before Thanksgiving?! Wow! That must have made things quite hectic! I’m so glad this post was a blessing to you. Thank you for saying hello!

  3. Kendra Fletcher says:

    I love this, Misty. Great attitude and definitely a way to see that Christmas is such a gift.

  4. Katie Ramsey says:

    Awesome post! What a wonderful encouragement! Thank you SO much for sharing this!

  5. This was such a great post! I found you from a link provided by Sally Clarkson. What a wonderful way to look at the work we do! Thank you!!

  6. Tammy Kihlstadius says:

    Thanksgiving for us this year was pleasantly relaxing as we spent it at Grandma’s. We went to the community meal at Grandma’s church (made a big donation) and skipped Black Friday sales.

  7. Nkespino5 says:

    Sooooo good Misty!! *Tears*!!

  8. I think I will have to bookmark your page….saw this on my FB page, courtesy of an old college friend, and it is so true…..except, I didn’t cook, my mom and dad did for my family as I had to work on Thanksgiving and the whole weekend–except for Sunday, when I drove my oldest son back to college 4 hours away…..you might guess, I work retail…but the imagery of Mary toward the end of your article was just what I needed today. Thank you. God bless.

  9. Heather Meyer says:

    Thanks for this post Misty.  I read a lot but don’t comment, but this was very refreshing.

  10. nancy kreitner says:

    Thank you,, Misty.  That was exactly the perspective I needed.. 😀

  11. Charlotte says:

    You are such a blessing to me, Misty!  Thank you for this post; it helped my Grinch’s heart grow three sizes- at least!  xo

  12. Wrightallthetime says:

    I truly think this is one of the most insightful things you’ve written, friend!  You are so annointed :)

  13. Tegan VB says:

    Wow! What a fantastic post! Thank you so much for blessing me with your words. I have been a bit discouraged already this season because of all the business of it (I have three children under age 3), and you help to give me focus for why I do it. :) (This is my first time reading your blog.) :)

  14. Jenniferkindle says:

    Love this

  15. kmmmo says:

    Busted! Convicted! Sharpened!

    This year has been a tough one for me…
    Joy is lacking…
    Motivation is non-existent…

    Thank you for holding me accountable! It’s time I get my act together and be that sacrifice!

    May Jesus bless you immensely!

  16. Sandy1 says:

    So very true……the past 2 Christmas’s have been on the sad side for me and my family. However, I am getting excited and want to decorate, get my cards out,  bake cookies. and get bake into “my spiritual mode about Christmas……everyone is different. However, sometimes, certain conditions prevent us to do this.
    Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2012 to everyone.
    Sandy x0x0x0x0

  17. Chelsea says:

    fantastic…much needed Misty!

  18. Yes!  {yes…yes…yes…yes…yes!}

  19. jen says:

    That is a beautiful thought. Well put. Thank you.

  20. 31giftsamywelch says:

    Nicely said, thank you for the reminder! BLESSINGS!

  21. Mom of 2 says:

    Your article was very humbling because we are very financially strapped this year and Christmas is going to be hard which has given me a rather Grinch like attitude. God has been convicting me and this article did me wonders. However I believe that husbands and fathers  should play a role in family festivities and holidays. The sole burden should not rest on the wife.  Even though the men may work outside the home, we WORK  hard inside the home every day. (I was a stay at home mom for 11 years). I am blessed to have a husband who understands this and is always there to help out in any way he can. From running to the store for ingredients I have forgotten, to helping decorate the tree, to taking the kids out to look at lights while mommy rests and recovers, a good husband is truly a gift from the Lord. I needed to hear your words, though, as I know memories are being made and that is the most important part, not the $.

    • I so hear you about the financial … strapped-ness! I may be doing some thrift store shopping this year, myself. But it’s not about money; it’s about effort! I’m so glad the article was a blessing to you. And here’s the thing; perhaps husbands and fathers “should” play a role. But the fact is, most don’t, haha! And they honestly aren’t wired for it, in my humble opinion. It just doesn’t work like that. My husband is exceptionally helpful, and does all the things you talked about. Bottom line, though, is that Christmas happens in most houses because of mama. And I’m okay with that. 😉 Enjoy a season filled with Jesus! And thanks for commenting!

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