My pastor’s wife said something in a leadership meeting some time ago that I just loved. She talked about how at the beginning of the year, everyone starts planning how to better organize their lives and make changes, and one of the first things we think about is defining our priorities.
We’ve all done that, right? You probably did it yourself last week: made a list of priorities, then tried to organize your schedule based on which things were most important. It’s always the same thing, really . . . put things in the correct order of importance: God, our husband, our kids, our home, our friends, our church, our job, blah blah. Good reminder, move on now, we’ve heard it a zillion times.
But she had a different way of looking at it that I really liked. She asked us, “What is the most important role you play in your life?” Wow. I immediately thought, “Well, being a mom.” And the next moment, of course, I felt guilty, thinking, “Well, I probably should have thought of being a wife first.” But then she went on to say, “Your relationship with God is the most important role of your life.”
Ummm, why, yes, it is; thanks for the reminder! Sheesh! Why on earth was that concept surprising to me? So I thought, “Okay; if my relationship with God is the most important thing in my life, then my most important role is Friend of God. How am I doing at that?”
Hmmmm. I think alot about the fact that I don’t feel like a very good friend most of the time. I’m way too busy, truth be told, to be good at the things I think define a good friendship: lots of conversation, having fun doing things together, sharing deep ideas, etc. If I have a phone conversation with a friend, it’s usually because we scheduled it the week before–and I’m so not kidding!
So how am I doing at being God’s friend? I’m not sure. I’m wise enough after all these years to know that I *have to* have my time in the Word and journaling every day. I can’t survive without it. So He fares much better than my “normal friends” as far as time spent together goes! But it seems like so much of the rest of my day is taken up with the urgent things–like history, grammar, lunch, science, snack, rest time, Algebra, laundry, and spelling–that my role as “God’s Friend” often gets neglected–and honestly, sometimes just forgotten. I remember I’m God’s servant, His child, His handmaiden, even. But friend?
” … and the Scripture was fulfilled which says, “And Abraham believed God, and it was reckoned to him as righteousness,” and he was called the friend of God.” James 2:23
“‘No longer do I call you slaves, for the slave does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I have heard from My Father I have made known to you.'” John 15:15
It was a good reminder. I *know* that throughout my day as I do those things I listed that I’m doing what God’s called me to. I *know* He’s happy when I do those things well.
But I also need to remember that I’m God’s Friend. For one thing, it changes the way I approach life. It lends me confidence, and reminds me that He is for me, working all things together for my good. And for another, it affects the way I treat other people. Being a friend of God means I can pass along His words. It means I’m an ambassador for Him. It also means I’m never really alone. He is always as near as the air I breathe. He wants me to talk to Him as I go through each little moment. I’m always in His presence. I’m always able to approach His throne.
In all the urgent moments of every day, the reality is that I’m not just doing the laundry, I’m serving His children. He’s got a plan for my life. He can use me to speak to my kids, my friends, my husband. He can strengthen me to do whatever needs to be done–over and over again. He needs my hands and feet and mouth to serve these people He’s given me. Because I’m His friend.
How are you doing at being God’s friend?
Have you been over to visit the lovely ladies at The Better Mom yet? Ruth Schwenk is hostess of this lovely website, and they have a wonderful linkup going on every Monday. Ruth will be joining us at Titus 2 University sometime soon, and I can’t wait to hear from her! The special focus at The Better Mom for this season is saying “yes” to our kids and being gentle moms … the post today by Joy Forney (another dear interviewee-w was especially lovely! Go take a peek!